Boy are these challenging times for everyone. We do not need to be stuck indoors if we comply with social distancing and wear masks when in public. Children need fresh air, daily exercise, and social interaction. Studies do show that being outside is safe if we follow safeguards: social distancing, avoid touching people and man made surfaces, and avoiding groups of people. Take you kids for daily walks or hikes. Good for you and them. Do it rain or shine! Have a routine. Talk to people from a distance. Stay the width of the street apart! Have a routine.
“Joyce & I have raised 6 children and are involved in the lives of our 12 grandchildren. We have learned through experience that we can suggest and guide, but not “tell” any of them what to do. The suggestions set forth herein are based on “lessons learned” both our good and poor parenting decisions, as well as those sent to us by readers of this web site. Hopefully, you will find them helpful.”
- Never threaten a punishment that you are not prepared to carry out. Shortly after one of our sons learned to drive, I found myself threatening to take the car away for a month (driving infraction). We live 20 miles from his school, and he knew that I would suffer more that he would if I carried out my plan. HOWEVER, when I suggested that I was going to ground him for the weekend, we both knew I could do it. P&J
- ALWAYS Tell your children you LOVE them, no matter what they do. Express your frustration about their “action”, and never personalize your criticism. P&J
Four Tips for Families during Social Distancing
Updated on April 14, 2020
Just when you thought thing were going well, we find ourselves with our family 24/7 which can be a blessing if we manage our time and emotions appropriately. Four things are important:
1) Keeping your sense of humor. Challenging behaviors can be particularly stressing when we are all living in tight quarters. Try to see the humor in these situations even if you have tom laugh at your response.
2) Try to structure you day and your children’s day. Online classes often help if they occur at certain times of the day. If not, set aside “school time” every day at the same time, and at the same location in your house. Encourage your children to single task, not watch TV and the school program at the same time.
3) Set time aside time each day for your children to focus on something fun and participatory whether it is be an interactive podcast, learning a new skill, or connecting with others. Kingsley Pines Camp offers children “5th Period Options” most days where children learn something new each day and have the opportunity to interact with a staff member and each other (It’s open to all children age 8-15.Contact firstname.lastname@example.org if you are interested).
4) Be physically active EVERY day. When possible get outdoors, but follow a 10’ separation rule. Even indoors it is possible to exercise. We have a friend in NYC who walks 3 miles EVERY day IN her 1,500 sq ft apartment. All it takes is creativity and effort!
Managing Electronics and Media
Updated on April 29, 2018
Do not kid yourselves! Managing electronics and media with children is one of the most challenging issues facing parents today. Studies universally show that overuse of electronics is “harmful” to children. In our opinion one of the primary impacts is they negatively impact a childs’ ability to develop relationships. Children loose sensitivity, thoughtfulness, and empathy.
Many parents have a reactive approach to managing phones/pads/games. They wait until they are fed up, then over react. This generally results in conflict/yelling and upset. A better approach would seem to be to develop a plan in advance of loosing you patience. Try to involve your child in a discussion involving time limits, times of use/non use, etc. This will not be easy, but if you can get buy in from your child, the chances of having a workable plan will be greatly increased.
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