“Joyce & I have raised 6 children and are involved in the lives of our 12 grandchildren. We have learned through experience that we can suggest and guide, but not “tell” any of them what to do. The suggestions set forth herein are based on “lessons learned” both our good and poor parenting decisions, as well as those sent to us by readers of this web site. Hopefully, you will find them helpful.”
- Never threaten a punishment that you are not prepared to carry out. Shortly after one of our sons learned to drive, I found myself threatening to take the car away for a month (driving infraction). We live 20 miles from his school, and he knew that I would suffer more that he would if I carried out my plan. HOWEVER, when I suggested that I was going to ground him for the weekend, we both knew I could do it. P&J
- ALWAYS Tell your children you LOVE them, no matter what they do. Express your frustration about their “action”, and never personalize your criticism. P&J
Managing Electronics and Media
Updated by owner on April 29, 2018
Do not kid yourselves! Managing electronics and media with children is one of the most challenging issues facing parents today. Studies universally show that overuse of electronics is “harmful” to children. In our opinion one of the primary impacts is they negatively impact a childs’ ability to develop relationships. Children loose sensitivity, thoughtfulness, and empathy.
Many parents have a reactive approach to managing phones/pads/games. They wait until they are fed up, then over react. This generally results in conflict/yelling and upset. A better approach would seem to be to develop a plan in advance of loosing you patience. Try to involve your child in a discussion involving time limits, times of use/non use, etc. This will not be easy, but if you can get buy in from your child, the chances of having a workable plan will be greatly increased.
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