Welcome to our blog where we can discuss children, social problems impacting children, educational issues, and how to make a difference. We encourage you to share your comments and thoughts on parenting with us and each other. We will post the best on our “Parenting Page”.
Changing the World
We may think that we cannot change the world; however, we can set an example for others to follow. We ARE responsible for OUR actions and behavior. By setting an example for our family, friends, acquaintances, and others, we do influence others. It is NOT what we say that counts as much as how we behave. If we set an example of thoughtfulness, kindness, and civility, others will emulate our behavior. If you influence the behavior of just one more person, and they influence one more person, and so on, you have Changed The World!
A walk in the woods can accomplish miracles. In an age when lives are dominated by lighted screens, and outdoor activity is generally coached, taking a child on a walk is calming and expands their imagination. Asking kids to be aware of what they see and smell heightens their senses. It can also strengthen your bond. Take the opportunity to listen, be silent, and simply enjoy the peace and quiet. Three books that are worth reading are: The Nature Principal, Last Child in The Woods, and The Nature Fix. Enjoy! PC-You will benefit as much as your child.
Children are at greater risk than we believe from smart phones and social media!!!
The NEW YORK TIMES reports that children, especially girls (1 in four) are deliberately harming themselves. This at a time when our society seems to be “child focused”. Many children are spending up to 9 hours per day where other people are evaluating their appearance and words. Children are jockeying for a sense of status that is largely unattainable. This often results in a poor self image and depression.
The average age a child a receives a smart phone is 10. These are powerful tools designed for adults! I question why a 10 year old “needs” a smart phone. I suggest that at age 10 they are NOT emotionally mature, and should not be given such a device. They are nearly impossible to monitor, and put your child at risk of interacting with complete strangers.
As a parent, it is not healthy and simply unnecessary to be in constant contact with your child. If you feel your child needs a phone for emergency purposes, use a “flip phone” and severely limit the minutes purchased!
Once you give your child a smart device, it is nearly impossible to take it away(even for an hour). Help you child and yourself a favor, delay giving your child a smart phone until they are mature enough to appreciate the responsibilities the use of such a device entails, and appreciate the social pressures that they will face.
Do not kid yourselves! Managing electronics and media with children is one of the most challenging issues facing parents today. Studies universally show that overuse of electronics is “harmful” to children. In our opinion one of the primary impacts is they negatively impact a childs’ ability to develop relationships. Children loose sensitivity, thoughtfulness, and empathy.
Many parents have a reactive approach to managing phones/pads/games. They wait until they are fed up, then over react. This generally results in conflict/yelling and upset. A better approach would seem to be to develop a plan in advance of loosing you patience. Try to involve your child in a discussion involving time limits, times of use/non use, etc. This will not be easy, but if you can get buy in from your child, the chances of having a workable plan will be greatly increased.
Consider giving your child an outdoor experience like Kingsley Pines Camp, Outward Bound, to where electronic are NOT available.
Please share your your experiences and Input.